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Can you like yourself?

Writer's picture: Dezerrae SanchezDezerrae Sanchez


The weekend is here. I wanted to check in and drop a bit of information about caring for yourself over the weekend. A little bit of kindness to yourself can go a long way in the sense of self-compassion. Practicing self-compassion involves treating yourself with kindness, acceptance, and understanding, especially during difficult times or when you make mistakes. Here are some ways to practice self-compassion:


Be mindful: Observe your thoughts and feelings without judging them. There is no right, no wrong. Notice your thoughts, acknowledge those thoughts. Let them float by if they are not serving you. Allow yourself to feel your emotions without trying to suppress or change them.


Treat yourself like you would treat a friend: Imagine that a close friend was going through the same situation as you are. How would you talk to them? What would you say? What would they need in a difficult moment? Speak to yourself with the same kindness and compassion.


Practice self-care: Take care of your physical and emotional needs. This includes getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising, and engaging in activities that bring you joy.


Recognize your common humanity: Remember that everyone makes mistakes and experiences difficult emotions. You are not alone in your struggles.


Challenge your negative self-talk: When you notice self-critical thoughts, challenge them by asking yourself if they are true or if they are just assumptions or beliefs. Is this self-talk based on emotions or facts? Are these thoughts too polarized or one sided? Meaning are you looking at it from an either or perspective? Is there room for a thought in the middle or in the grey area?


Practice self-forgiveness: Forgive yourself for past mistakes or perceived failures. Remember that mistakes are opportunities to learn and grow. Mistakes mean you have taken chances, you have tried something new, you have explored your potential.


Cultivate gratitude: Find positives in your day, big or small. Find something that has brought you joy and recognize it. Take note of experiences that have created happiness, and incorporate those experiences into your day.


Remember that self-compassion is a practice, and it takes time and effort to develop. Be patient and kind to yourself as you work on it. Self love may feel like a big jump if you're struggling with kindness for yourself. Let's start slow. Can you learn to like yourself first?



What are some ways you can practice self-compassion this weekend?


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